Absence Makes the Heart grow Fonder?

Thank you to all of you who've been questioning my whereabouts regarding this blog.  Those of you who don't know me on my Older Single Mum one won't be aware of the accident which occurred since I last wrote. It was only small - a hit to the head with the edge of a Badminton racquet in full flow at the hands of my four year old - but it had massive ramifications. Quite serious concussion has lingered, but with plenty of help from lots of people within the fields of natural medicine I have made … [Read more...]

The Left Brain / Right Brain Business.

The lovely Lorraine who has been blogging for only several months over at Gin & Cornflakes introduces the left / right brain discussion here. It's scientifically proven that certain areas of our brains relate to our different types of thoughts and emotions. Simply put, the left side is more academic, the right is more creative. Do we all have particular 'leanings' one way or another, or, seeing as most of us are blessed with both sides of one, can we become better fulfilled by exercising … [Read more...]

Own Your Magnificence – Nelson Mandela’s Inaugural Speech?

This is an amazing quote, something to think and talk about often.  It's particularly helpful when making tricky decisions. 'What would you do if you owned your magnificence?' I say and ponder on.  It can be life-changing, life affirming and take the heat out of any situation because it tells you what you really want to be doing.  It can help anyone at any time. It is famously and usually attributed to Nelson Mandela, a man who became President of South Africa after 27 years in jails … [Read more...]


This really struck a chord with me recently.  It was reportedly found inscribed on the wall of Mother Theresa's room in her Children's Home in Calcutta and is apparently based on a poem originally by Kent M. Keith: Thought it might inspire some of you too:   Anyway. People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centred; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false … [Read more...]

Healing our Children.

Children are awesomely susceptible.   They're fantastic to work with - open-hearted, open-minded and open energetically. They all have their ups and downs, like adults do too, emotionally and physically. The only thing about getting older and having less energy is that we become more 'blocked.'  We don't really have less energy at all - it just becomes 'stuck' over the years. Having worked with babies, ladies in their nineties and literally hundreds of people in between I can testify to … [Read more...]


On my last post we explored whether 'Meditation' is a taboo word and the results were surprising.  An alternative expression -   'Mindfulness' kept coming up though, suggesting different connotations - not so spooky, or suggestive of chanting and behaviour we might find strange in this country.  Not that meditation is really like that - but it is a common misconception. We are more used to the term 'Praying,'  but, again, it can be off-putting for some. Yet the need for quiet contemplation … [Read more...]


Is 'meditation' still a taboo word or has it become fashionable? Perhaps it's somewhere in-between at present. I asked around about people's thoughts / experiences and this is some of what they said: PENNY ALEXANDER - ALEXANDER RESIDENCE. I always thought it was much more involved and complex than it actually is, that I would have to go to classes for weeks. I finally read a very short guide that came free in The Guardian when I was ill at Christmas and realised how simple and effective … [Read more...]

Awareness is the Key.

'Meditation.' Let's take a look at that word before we start. We can skirt around it, make it complicated or embrace it. It has certain connotations that might involve sitting cross legged in the middle of a lotus leaf and making strange 'Om' sounds, but the truth is simpler. It is really allowing oneself the luxury and power of a still mind. Once you've cracked how to sit quietly and breathe more deeply than most of us do, running around like a headless chicken more often than not, then … [Read more...]

Grief Can Make You Fat.

We all grieve. There are varying degrees and some of it can be mind-numbingly shockingly awful, completely consuming and life-changing, but the only permanent thing in life is 'Change' so we are all grieving sometimes, but at different levels. Grief itself has well documented stages - Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. We can get stuck at any one of these at any time, fluctuate between them all and endure an entire emotional catalogue to boot too. When we have lost … [Read more...]

Healers – They Come in all Shapes and Sizes.

There are some 'Healers' who walk around in a uniform and we know they will help us - Nurses, Doctors, Surgeons even, for example.  Some walk among us without realising the healing effect they have on everyone they meet.  Some are strangers we will never know, who make a passing comment at a bus stop, but their words stay with us for ever. We turn to people who love us at times of crisis and they can be very healing. We all try to heal our children from any kind of hurt - indeed there is a … [Read more...]

Dear Anya,

I used to run a sort of intuitive Agony Aunt column for a local paper years ago and a blog like this invites questions that people are not alone in asking, so I thought why not give it a go here? You can e mail me privately and we can publish it here on the blog, anonymously or not, it's up to you. Here's the first from Lisa Burn (@lisaburn1964) who blogs at 4os chic.  She actually read a post on my better established blog Older Single Mum - called 'Is Life Like a Sat Nat Drive?' where I … [Read more...]