Awareness is the Key.

‘Meditation.’ Let’s take a look at that word before we start. We can skirt around it, make it complicated or embrace it.

It has certain connotations that might involve sitting cross legged in the middle of a lotus leaf and making strange ‘Om’ sounds, but the truth is simpler. It is really allowing oneself the luxury and power of a still mind.

Once you’ve cracked how to sit quietly and breathe more deeply than most of us do, running around like a headless chicken more often than not, then you’ll find yourself meditating more naturally.

Think of supermarket queues, traffic jams, just waiting somewhere with nothing particularly in mind, sunbathing, that sort of thing, or just going about your daily business – driving around, calmly doing your relentless housework – all these things can produce what is a meditative state.

This is when you begin to ALLOW – allow your thoughts to move more freely and your intuitions to pop in. You know I call them ‘inner-tuitions,’ because that’s what they are!

Taking long journeys, particularly on a train, can be enormously restful for the brain. Sometimes more distance can produce more distance for us too – from our daily rubbish, worries and concerns. The most amazing ideas can ‘pop in’ to a quiet mind and let’s not forget how important it is for children to benefit from the art of doing nothing too.

Simply by being still, mentally, then the awesomeness that is you can process everything on every level. For some this can be helped by being still physically, but it is absolutely not essential because people who regularly go running or swimming admit that the benefits include loving the ability to take time out and ‘clear their heads’ while they’re doing their thing.

I believe the body is the mind and if you listen to it, it will guide you. I can’t explain it, but years of experience have convinced me. We know when something feels right and when it doesn’t. Our awareness is the key. This awareness of the body’s information comes from not ‘trying’ to meditate, but by ALLOWING ourselves to just switch off the mental clatter.

Babies do it automatically – they stare into space quite regularly while they’re meditating, as do day-dreamers. They’re not ‘trying’ to still their minds, it’s happening naturally. A fairground ride can do it, as can some films (particularly horror ones, [Ugh]), but a really good laugh can work wonders at settling ‘Scatterbrains’ too.

And from within will be the messages of our soul – that which is always pulling at us in a certain direction, despite other people’s opinions, sometimes. It makes you want what you want. This is not a luxury, it’s vital to who you are and to who you want to be!

So. Awareness is the key. A still mind / meditation / relaxation / breathing – and paying attention, pausing and waiting, ALLOWING ourselves to be and listening, can not only be very healing, but liberating and profoundly empowering.

[Don’t forget how to vocalise what feels right, or doesn’t vs. what you think is right or isn’t – help and details HERE!].

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  1. says

    Great thoughtful post, must find time to do this! You are a lovely writer Anya.
    I’d love it if you covered something about sleep, my husband struggles at night time to switch off, if you were looking for suggestions of topics.

    • Anya says

      Thank you Amanda, that means a great deal! I struggled with this as was really tired myself. Will think about the sleep issue X

  2. says

    So many true words. My biggest problem is quieting a very hectic mind. I read somewhere once that you don’t necessarily need to stop the flow of chatter, just stop listening to it! That helps me sometimes. I think you make a valid point about allowing children to do nothing, it is very easy to worry if they aren’t involved in an activity of some kind in our go-fast world. Learning to just be is such a valuable lesson.

    • Anya says

      Thank you Luci – it’s become a habit to be so busy, but that is OK if you can remain centred. We are born knowing how to ‘just be’ – so it’s a question of unlearning the busy stuff and encouraging our kids not to have to! :)

    • Anya says

      I think the mental stillness is hard with such a to-do list in our heads, but I find that a sort of filing system takes place and the most pressing stuff comes to the fore and stuff that may have been buried or forgotten surfaces again – if we allow it! Nice to see you here Mich. Thank you. XX

  3. says

    Great post. The whole sitting cross-legged, staring into space thing has never really appealed to me. Or, in reality, I think it has probably frightened me because I know I’m not that good at stilling my mind. But I find that being mindful in mundane tasks can have a meditative effect – doing the washing up for example! I’m also a climber and I think the best thing about rock climbing is that it requires you to be totally mindful and as a result it becomes a wonderful exercise in meditation. And a great linking of the mental and the physical.

    • Anya says

      Thank you. You make my point perfectly. There’s also something about being around water that is supposed to help – washing up does that for me too!

  4. says

    I’m trying to get to that state at the moment. I’ve just taken up yoga again, after a few years break, and that, as I am sure you know, involves a lot of slow, long breaths and quietening of the mind. I’ve never managed to get there, and usually, at the end of my practice, I sit still and try not to focus on much of anything, but it’s not really happening. No worries, I am sure I’ll get there :)

    • Anya says

      I’m sure you’ll get there too – not too much ‘trying’ normally helps. At least you’re aware of what is going on and allowing yourself quiet space and time. :)

    • Anya says

      I don’t think there could ever be a more delightful comment to read – thank you so much! Glad to hopefully get to know you better!

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