Healing our Children.

Children are awesomely susceptible.   They’re fantastic to work with – open-hearted, open-minded and open energetically.

They all have their ups and downs, like adults do too, emotionally and physically.

The only thing about getting older and having less energy is that we become more ‘blocked.’  We don’t really have less energy at all – it just becomes ‘stuck’ over the years.

Having worked with babies, ladies in their nineties and literally hundreds of people in between I can testify to how energy flow changes.  It becomes less efficient, but it’s still there.

As one clears blocks and stuck ‘stuff,’ the body’s energy works on a basic dam principle – clearing debris and emotions, flushing through toxins, becoming stronger as it gathers momentum.

Children are perfect examples of vitality.  It’s a shame to watch it fade, but if you think of a teenager, many of them lack that then.   Many don’t, also.

Some old people are full of it still.  I guess it’s not only what life deals you, but what you make of it – how you perceive it, how you cope.

One thing is for sure – everyone has a story.

Children live theirs for the day.  They live in the moment.  They are glorious in their full capacity to love, laugh and grasp life, dangerously and fearlessly for now. Later, they will be more wise, throw caution to the wind rarely and so be it.

Those who came to me – brought to me my their parents in my Healing Practice – would generally be doing so as a last resort, but I found them easy to help – so responsive, so quick to look inside to see what was going on, such fun!

There was an adopted trio, once, for example, with a troublesome middle child who had so much energy he basically ruined their family life.  When we ‘tuned in’ to see what was going on – he was very clear about what he could see and was quite disturbed by it.  We shut down his energy wheels (also known as ‘Chakras’) – he described them perfectly to me – like no-one else ever has in all my twenty years, he balanced them himself with breathing – just with a little intuitive guidance from me – yet I was totally led by him – and he sort of re-set them.

There was a vast improvement from then onwards, according their adoptive mum.   Just one more visit followed and, with the tools he needed within himself, plus the confidence to use them, he was much more settled and they were able to go on and lead lives as a normal, happy family unit.

He was eight.   He taught me.

The Loving Parent  writes a wonderful post HERE – do give it a read – about spontaneously ‘doing an accidental meditation’ with her son, Toby, when he complained of stomach cramps.  She just followed her intuition and he responded easily, without the battle of wills that can commonly be the case with grown ups and he said it helped him.   What a truly amazing gift to give him for life and what a brilliantly empowering experience for her!

My children see colours in their minds eyes sometimes.  I encourage them to be quiet and just wait for them (I’ll try anything that’ll keep them still for a while, especially before bed or first thing in the morning!) and, chalk and cheese that they are, they share their different blues, greens, pinks, oranges and silvers, or whatever comes to them at that particular moment, really quite enthusiastically- almost competitively.

The youngest (nearly four) has started to point out ‘spiders’ he can see, which no-one else can and I think they must be energetic clusters of some sort, a bit like invisible ‘cobwebs’ you can sometimes feel and my eldest (almost eight, but co-incidentally – ? –  nearly four at the time) could feel my labour pains approaching the birth of his younger brother.  Poor him!

Or perhaps not?  Is this is something we all have and can we hold onto it, if only we know how to retain that openness?  And is it possible to remain vital / re-gain our vitality?

What’s your story?  What do your children teach you?


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  1. says

    I found this so interesting. I certainly don’t give enough credit to my kids intuitive ways – so much of life is about stifling them to conform to how you as a parent are feeling. I’ll be trying to tap into their energy more after reading this. Great post. x

  2. says

    This is really interesting and something I’ve never thought of before. But I do believe in creating your own energy and being positive. Constantly telling yourself you are tired and need to sleep isn’t positive and will make you tired and need to sleep!

  3. says

    My oldest son has the most incredible connection with himself for a nine year old he is constantly teaching me how we can over come emotional challenges. His are so great coming from such painful beginnings of neglect yet he constantly learns, reflects and moves forward. I am constantly in awe of him. My other little warrior ( the one in the poem) could probably do with your help. He is really pained inside but stuck there now for some time. It’s hard to know what to do for him, support is limited. Thank you for directing me to your post really interesting.

    • Anya says

      Hello Sarah – the problem with these adopted children is that we can never truly appreciate what they have been through – and we’ll never truly know, which must be awfully lonely for them. All I can do – unless you want to bring him to me – is suggest you guide him inside and ask him to tell you what he is feeling / seeing. Drawing / painting how he feels might help – and doing it often – with no judgement on the work – as in ‘What is that?’ etc. Just getting it out will help him uncover himself – and hopefully he’ll find something inside himself that his brother has? We can stay in touch and work together xx

    • Anya says

      That’s an excellent post, thank you Claire. I wish you well in all of your recovery – poor little Danny – and have commented xx

    • Anya says

      No – you’re in – didn’t like to edit – perhaps you’re underlining the message! So glad the timing is right! xx

  4. says

    Lovely Anya, what I like the most about your posts is that you seem to have a knack of connecting people.

    My kids have been greater teachers than any of the spiritual/esoteric teachers I’ve studied over the years; like my own little spirit guides packed into bodies that create chaos/joy in my life all at the same time ;o)

    I remember working on a teenager once who was a real ‘problem child’ with the typical ‘ugh’ response to all my questions. After the healing session she was a totally different person, responsive and communicative in a way I’d never seen her. It was a reminder to me of how tough it is to be a teen and have their brains scrambled for a few years.

    • Anya says

      Thank you very much Lisa – I’m astounded at the feedback on here – although I should know better! I knew it would come, but am always surprised at how and from whom and where! Thank you for your incredible support. Children are such great healers themselves – if only we would allow them to be! xx

    • Anya says

      Thank you and that’s good to know. I consider that my role – just to open up ideas to people – and let them do the rest! xx

  5. says

    What a brilliant post. A good reminder to trust our children’s instincts and intuitions as well as our own. It has brought back a lot of memories of when we took T to a cranio sacral therapist when he was very young. I’ve never been able to explain to people how it worked, but it was magical to watch. T tells me that every night before he goes to sleep he sees ‘trains’ flying above his bed. I’ve just dismissed it as imagination, but now you’ve got me wondering… Xx

    • Anya says

      Thank you Ruth. He must love trains! Try to nurture that – ask him about them – you’ll be amazed at the details – and even write them down. They can teach us a great deal, should we let them! I appreciate your comment, thank you xx

  6. says

    Katie loves doing healing with me and is learning how to use her hands. We use Reiki all the time in our house or “magic handies” as it’s known here. I like the idea of having quiet time to close eyes and look at the colours. Will try that with my hyper little lady!

  7. says

    Open-hearted, open-minded and open energetically: You totally described my second daughter.
    I cannot wait for spring to arrive so we can resume our trips to our “special place” in the forest, where we share so much. xx

    • Anya says

      The words just sort of come – I can’t really take any credit for them, but I am so glad they resonate with you. Spring is nearly here. If there’s anything you or she can share here, please do so xx.

  8. says

    Great post. I get the chakras thing as I am a reflexologist (by night, lawyer by day – appreciate weird combo) and I too have seen so many people who are ‘blocked’ – that is the perfect way of looking at it. I delight in seeing my LO just completely free at the moment and will work on that always being the case :) x

    • Anya says

      What a great combination of occupations! I love that left brained / right brained thing – think you might have just inspired a particular post! Lovely about your litte one! :)

  9. says

    I liked the thought of wandering into an ‘accidental meditation’ to ease stomach pains. I’m guilty of thinking there’s nothing I can do about those (I’m not going to give Calpol everytime someone mentions tummy ache). But this has made me realise she might simply appreciate us sitting and having some quiet time together.

    • Anya says

      We’re not taught to be this aware and it is a problem in our culture. The health of the nation could be very different if we were brought up to take responsibility for it and to use our intution and own healing abilities!

  10. says

    Lovely post. It’s great to read other people living the healing life with their kids.

    I am a healer but have not been practising for a while.

    One day, a while back, my then 18 month old girl was resting with me on the sofa close to bedtime. She took my hands and placed them on her stomach. My hands instantly turned ‘on’. She did this two nights in a row.

    On te third night I wanted to sit down and do it again but she pushed me away. It was as if she were full. How sweet!

    • Anya says

      Hi Laura, How wonderful to meet another Healer – thank you for saying hello. I think our children need all energy when they’re little! I am only just returning to this work properly now my youngest is starting school in September, so no doubt you’ll get the calling again when it’s time! It’s great to see that about your daughter – they can teach us so much! :)

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